“However, there is something wrong with the man who is supposed to be the love of your life insulting— and allowing his family to insult — the literal face you were born with. You don’t need to know your father to realize that people who make fun of certain ethnic features are racist. His insults are borderline antisemitic. And no, I’m not exaggerating.” “For all intents of this being a judgment sub, NTA, but you haven’t been very kind to yourself either and you will be TA if you don’t remember who the hell you are and put a stop to your fiancé and his family’s BS.” “I really need to get back into therapy. I’m trying to look into getting another nose job to reverse this but I don’t know if any plastic surgeon would be willing/able to give me ’the beak’ back, and I’m terrified of getting surgery again. I just want to feel comfortable in my skin again. As much as I know logically I should be able to get used to this over time, I really don’t feel I can. Everybody is suggesting we should postpone the wedding, and I think that makes a lot of sense. I don’t know how my fiancé is going to feel about that. I love him but a lot of these comments are making me think more deeply into how he treats me. He’s this very sweet guy normally. Introverted, very smart, always there when I need him, etc. but he’s not being that guy right now.”
